Helping Children Cope with Loss

Steps to help guide children through this difficult time.

Helping Children Cope with Loss

When a death occurs, children often need special attention and support to understand and cope with their feelings. Here are some steps to help guide them through this difficult time.

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Communicate Openly
  • Be Honest: Use simple, clear language to explain what has happened. Avoid euphemisms that might confuse them.
  • Encourage Questions: Let them ask questions and answer as honestly as possible, considering their age and understanding.
Provide Reassurance
  • Offer Comfort: Reassure them that they are safe and loved. Let them know it's okay to feel sad, angry, or confused.
  • Maintain Routine: Keeping daily routines as normal as possible can provide a sense of stability.
Involve Them in the Process
  • Allow Participation: Depending on their age, let children participate in the funeral or memorial service. This can help them say goodbye and understand the process.
  • Explain the Rituals: Talk about what will happen at the service, so they know what to expect.
Create a Safe Space for Emotions
  • Listen Actively: Encourage them to express their feelings and listen without judgment.
  • Validate Their Emotions: Let them know that it's normal to feel a range of emotions, and there is no right or wrong way to grieve.
Offer Resources and Support
  • Books and Activities: Use age-appropriate books and activities to help them understand and process their grief.
  • Seek Professional Help: If needed, consider seeking support from a child psychologist or counselor who specializes in grief.

Questions About Helping Children Cope with Loss

  • What should I say to a child about death?

    Explain death in simple, straightforward terms. You might say, "When someone dies, their body stops working, and they can't be with us anymore."

  • How can I help my child express their feelings?

    Encourage them to draw, write, or talk about their feelings. Be patient and give them the time they need.

  • Is it okay for children to see me cry?

    Yes, showing your emotions can help children understand that it's okay to grieve and express their own feelings.

  • How do I know if my child needs professional help?

    If your child shows signs of prolonged distress, such as changes in behavior, difficulty sleeping, or loss of interest in activities, it might be helpful to seek professional support.


    By offering understanding, comfort, and open communication, you can help children navigate their grief and find healthy ways to cope with the loss of a loved one.